Experiments by Harvard researchers, writes Epley, demonstrated that when questioned immediately post-bust, people tended to lie due to their dread of punishment.
A short break seems to alleviate that fear enough that they go ahead and admit the ugly truth.
Which, as we know from our own slipups, is the first step to apologizing—and figuring out how to avoid the inadvisable act next time. Both of you could sit there expressing opinions all night.
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